Day 7 of AishaOaktree's 21 days of YULE blog party

Each day for the next 14 days, I will be sharing  either some legends, myths, devotions, my own thoughts perhaps a recipe or 2 on my blog for Aisha's YULE Blog Party at By The Broomstick.

Please visit the other blogs that are participating(above)

I am still a newb, learning. Therefore any legend, myth, devotion etc. will be coming from someplace I read it, and I will be giving credit to the right people.

ADDITIONALLY, I have a small gift tree that has a some ornaments on it, but it also has 21 little gift bags or envelopes that are numbered 1-21.  Each day I will pick a winner from the comments for that day.  These giveaways are priced from $1-$5, and there are a few are like booby prizes...I am doing this FOR FUN!!

EASY RULES:

*be a follower
*tell me something about that day's post that means something to you, or touches you etc.
*list your name
*pick a number from 1-21*  (*each day obviously there will be numbers listed as OUT, it will be your responsibility to pay attention to each day's posts, to see the number that is no longer available)

Picture of gift tree not ready, will add asap
You can't see the gifts anyway, they are wrapped and in bags, or just there#s are in the bags or envelopes.   NO ONE from DAY ONE picked a #, so I asked hubby to pick one and I could take it out of the running...that # is the #11....so pick a number between 1-21 except for 11, 5, 7, 9, 21 & 20.

yesterday no one picked a #

I only allow 24 hours per post for picking numbers, comments always accepted :), but picking a # must be in the first 24 hours after I post each day! additionally only 1 win per person during the 21 days. Thank you.
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  Coping with the Season

From Patti Wigington, your Guide to Paganism / Wicca

Don't let the stress of the season ruin your Yule!
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Yule is supposed to be a time of great joy and celebration, but let's face it -- sometimes, it's just the opposite. We tend to get frustrated with the whole experience of shopping, spending money, dealing with family members... and it can turn a happy time into a period of anger and anxiety. Today, let's look at some ways you can help keep that negativity in check, and instead have a happy and healthy Yule season.

It should be the happiest time of year, right? After all, the Yule season is when we celebrate the return of the sun, and the days start to get a little brighter. The mundane world is observing Christmas and Hanukkah, gifts are being given all over the place -- it should be a season of great joy. Yet for many people, late fall and early winter are a time when frustrations begin to build, and anxiety (and often depression) set in. Between getting together with family, preparing big meals, shopping for gifts, decorating the house, and spending money on others, for many people Yule can be a time of overwhelming stress. Here are a few tips on reducing your stress levels during the Yule season.

Set your limits.

Are you in charge of the community coat drive, the local toy roundup, and getting your entire PTO's fundraiser up and running? Step back! Be willing to say "No" when someone asks you to commit more time and energy than you have to give. We all want to help others at this time of year, but if you take on more than you really are capable of, you'll become resentful and angry - and that's no way to spend the Yule season. Learning to say "No" might be the best gift you can give yourself this year.

Enlist help.

Feeling a bit overwhelmed by the eighteen boxes of Yule décor in your basement? Fine -- put the kids to work. If you don't have kids -- or if yours are too young to decorate -- put on a pot of wassail and invite a few friends over for a decorating party. It will take the stress out of the situation if you're surrounded by people whose company you enjoy. Likewise, if you're hosting a holiday dinner, ask others to show up early to set the table or to bring part of the meal as a side dish. I've learned that if I plan ahead, and just ask, I can usually get someone else to commit to taking care of cleanup afterwards!

Don't overspend.

One of the biggest holiday stress-outs is the knowledge that you'll be paying off Yule until June. Don't let this happen. Make a budget, and stick to it. For more on how to do this, read about How to Have a Budget Friendly Yule. Also remember, you don't have to go crazy with the gifts. Do you want to teach your children about the value of the holiday season, or that whoever gets more stuff wins? In many families, parents have learned to limit the number of gifts each person gets -- in mine, each kid gets one really big gift, and then three smaller gifts such as a DVD, a pair of cute winter pajamas, and a game to play or a book to read.

Set boundaries.

A lot of people stress out over family relationships during the holidays. If you're one of those people, you need to decide ahead of time how you're going to deal with family members who aggravate you. Got a non-Pagan family member who just won't leave you alone? Brush up on coping strategies at Survivng the Holidays with Your Non-Pagan Family.

Decompress.

When you're feeling overwhelmed in the middle of the season, and you know you still have things that need to get done, take a break. Turn off the phone, shut the door, and go have some Me Time. Take a one-hour power nap, enjoy a bubble bath with some nice scented candles, invite a friend out for a quick coffee date. Set aside a few minutes each day to meditate and get yourself grounded. You'll appreciate it in the long run.

Recognize burnout.

A big problem many people seem to have is they just fail to realize they're burning themselves out. Stress creeps up on us, and then we tend to justify it by saying, "Well, it's the holidays." Learn to recognize the signs of burnout, and react accordingly. Some signs include:

• Depleted levels of physical energy
• Lowered immune system, feeling run-down or ill
• Lack of interest in things that you normally enjoy
• Decreased sex drive
• Negative, pessimistic outlook
• Anger directed at people who don't deserve it, like kids and sales clerks

If you start seeing these behaviors in yourself, it's time to take a step back and recognize that you're stressing out. Now that you've discovered the problem, take time to fix it, so that you and the people around you can have a happy and healthy Yule season.

Suggested Reading

• Yule Cleansing Ritual
• Celebrating Yule with Kids
• Welcome Back the Sun for Yule